How to Love Yourself while Giving to Others
How do you love yourself while giving to others? To answer the question, first we figure out why we do it, why we give to others in the first place.
Hey there trendsetter...
How are you on this glorious day? Today I wanted to touch on a topic that I neglected for many, many years... and it is a pretty safe assumption that you have too. Maybe not intentionally, I know I certainly didn't do it intentionally, however I did it none the less. I would almost guarantee that you have, or maybe even still are.
Why do we give to others?
The reason I can say that with such conviction is simple. It is human nature, to give, and to give. Why is that? The answer can be found in the Six Human Needs. The reason we are happy to give, and unconsciously neglect ourselves is simple.
We want to feel love and connection, by giving to others it allows us to show our 'love' to someone, it allows a sense of connectedness (something we may be missing internally)
We want to contribute, this gives us the sense that we are adding value to someone or something (where we may not be valuing what we already have in ourselves)
We want to feel significant, so that people can see that we are something (When we may not see it in an of ourselves to begin with)
We want certainty, by giving it gives us pleasure and helps us avoid pain (when we may not have been able to find it in ourselves)
It provides us with an element of uncertainty, we don't know the reaction we will get, we anticipate that it will be good, as we are giving... however that is not always the case, there is always an element of 'I wonder'. This one is harder to quantify for self, however it still carries significance.
Believe it or not it allows us to grow also, we are able to physically and mentally grow from giving something away, no matter what that is... Here is where the issue lies, most people don't see or recognise the growth, or the significance thereof.
So how do we love ourselves then?
So thats why we give, you may have others names and labels for it, however that basically sums it all up... So then the question still remains How do we love ourselves while giving to others?
That question could be summed up with this;
If you are doing something for recognition, you are doing it for the wrong reasons. The world will recognise you when you recognise yourself.
However that could be a little esoteric, so let us break it down that little bit further. Everything is energy. Everything. The energy that you put out, you receive back. This is true also for giving to others. The irony of it is, is that it may not comeback in the form, or from where, you are expecting.
Often we give with the expectation that we should receive something back for the gesture, and when that does not manifest the way we think it should, OR we dis-allow the return flow by getting upset at what we thought we should receive we literally stop the love from coming back to us. This is due to the fact we are now operating at a different vibrational frequency.
So when you don't get back what you think you should be getting back, you get upset, and wonder what was the point. So you start to beat up on yourself. This is one of the reasons it is hard to love yourself while giving to others.
When you give from a place of purity, a place of giving without expectation, then you are without burden. Yes it is nice to have all of the praise, and to get all of those six human needs, what you must understand however is that you do get them simply by giving, you don't need the external recognition that you think you do.
Here is where the fun and magic starts to happen. When you are present to you, to why you are doing something and giving, realise that you are also giving to yourself. Do it without expectation of praise and recognition, as the only recognition you need is from yourself.
Once you do this on a regular basis, the world does begin to recognise you. This can come in many forms, being asked to attend functions, having stories published about you, having someone give you a thank you card, it could be as simple as the smile on someones face that you have given something to.
Three things to Love Yourself while giving to others.
1. Accept yourself for who you are, you are of pure love and light.
2. Give with out expectation, just with pure joy of giving.
3. Allow the love to flow back to you, don't shut it off.
It's is simple... we tend to overcomplicate things though. Biggest thing is don't be to hard on yourself. You are with you 24/7 you might as well learn to
like love yourself! I know you're awesome even if you can't see it yourself yet.
Love to hear your thoughts, so leave your comments below, and of course, share this with someone who gives a lot, but loves themselves a little...
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About the Author
Andrew Hawkes is an Author and Speaker on the topic of Personal Attraction and Spiritual Intuition. He has honed, and Continues to refine his natural ability to connect with source energy and the non-physical. Although Reluctant to call himself a healer, Andrew is well attuned to spirit energy and the different effects it has on people and applies a workshop type approach to working through any blockages, or energies, that may be present..